Four Causes of Lazy Learning Child. Understanding the child as an individual who is undergoing the stages of infancy, extra patience is required. Similarly, when found children who had entered school age are so lazy to learn. Relying on teachers to solve the problem? Would not be so.
Especially when we realize that the children actually began his education from home. Thus, the role of parents to help directly the difficulties experienced by children is very important. Finding the cause is the first step to implement the right solution.
Robert D. Carpenter MD, is a researcher who never learn to make observations on the development of primary school pupils in California, United States. In his observations found the cause of why children often have problems in learning that tends to make them so lazy. Here are four causes that often occur and cause the child to lazy to learn.
1. Ineffective communication
Remember, our target is to communicate to ensure that the ‘message’ that we want to convey to the recipient (child) received correctly. Of course parents want the child to understand, love and do what parents think. Effective communication can also express warmth and affection of parents, for example, “I am very proud, you’ve tried hard to learn in this semester.”
Try to remember how the communication patterns that we build so far. Have the kids get the message that we convey in accordance with what we mean?
Often parents forget to convey the ‘contents’ of the message, but more spread on the things that are actually outside the main intent. For example, test scores for children below the average of their classmates. Without first asking the children why the value is ugly, my mother commented, “That’s what happens when you do not according to my mother. Merely playing anyway. Mother tuh school never had time to value 6. You really value this ugly. How is it? “What is the core message delivered Mother? Children’s wrong because its value is bad and getting one because my mother always compares the child with his mother during the school situation. As a result, the child will think, “Ah, there’s no point in telling my mother that a poor grade. I’ll definitely dimarahin. ”
In fact, knowing the children are below average for the parents is very important to evaluate the cause. “Well, my child’s grades for the subjects of mathematics why are always bad huh? What needs to be helped? “A series of questions can be answered if we communicate effectively, not blame the child. If the cause can be immediately known, then parents can look for solutions and make improvements.
Ineffective communication that run for years, will certainly have a negative impact on the character formation of children. In fact, one of the functions of communication is to know yourself and others. Certainly the pattern as it would create confusion in identifying the child himself and his parents. ‘What the hell he want’s father / mother?’ This confusion resulted in the child does not grow strong motivation to excel, yet they do not know what use they are learning.
“Basically you have to rank one. Before, my father walking school, but always ranked one. Why can not you? ‘Emphasizes a word,’ tree ‘,’ should ‘, and other similar words showing the absence of the gap for other options.
Parents who make their irrefutable hard to present their views. In fact, difficult to ascertain the potential itself, let alone optimize its potential. This irrefutable tendency if continues to be focused on building the child’s parents insist. For example, “you’ll need to be a doctor.” Even if eventually the child will attend lectures in medical school parents, it will menjalaninya with half a heart. Could be, just a year served, further out because it is contrary to his desire. Of course we do not want it to happen, right?
3. Target does not fit
Targets that do not fit, could be too low or too high of his abilities. Do not push so much activity on a child so that they become bored and too tired. As a result of overactivity, many children who then began to leave learning as an activity that should be most important.
This is where the role of parents is very important, do not get too pushy children in the hope that they could reap as much as possible achievement. They are registered with the wide variety of courses or private lessons without knowing that limit a child’s IQ is not allowed to receive a wide range of activities offered by the parents.
However, contrary to the child who has a high IQ, also need special handling, because they are not quite the regular target for other children. They need more challenges to its potential optimized. To determine the potential of this, parents need to help psychologists.
4. Rules and punishments that do not educate
Too strict in your daily routine can lead to lazy kids eventually learn. However, in contrast without making the child’s daily routines are not used to have a study plan that must be complied with. Middle road, a routine can not be determined only by the parents, but built it together.
Creating rules must be followed by consequences. Thus, children can understand what the relationship between compliance with the rules through the consequences, not just punishment that does not educate, such punishment can pinch when the ugly
For elementary school age children up, parents need to discuss with the child. Rule is signed and mounted near the desk. For example, 1) Learning after Maghrib until Isha prayers; 2) Can watch Avatar on Sunday morning; 3) Main PS maximum of 2 hours on days off, 4) and so on.
Do not be too tired to up-date the agreement and warned that there is a violation. Remember also be consequences, such as “Learning yuk! Yesterday we agreed to do if you do not learn, how to behold? ”
Let the children answer the consequences. If the rules had been made jointly, the child must remember the consequences. The hope, awareness to learn to grow from within the child, not forced parents. No more punishment that does not educate, because the punishment will make the child think “Ugh, learning is not fun!”